cockoo-parents

‚The Female Factor – In Germany a Tradion falls and Women Rise“ article in the ‚The New York Times‘ on January 18th 2010 by Katrin Bennhold provoqued this text:

As someone who still holds a German passport and who has lived in Germany for nearly 50 years, knowing mothers, fathers, children and even a little bit of school- and economic structures, I would like to put this down:
A ‚raven mother‘ might push out birds of the nest, but when I think of the children of today, I rather see ‚cockoo-parents‘ than ‚raven-mothers‘. A cockoo is a famous bird who’s female lays her eggs into other birds nests and does not care about them any more.
The problem in Germany (or anywhere in the world where you have masculine, feminine and very young human beings) is not: How to kick the young ones out of the nest. The question is: Who takes care of the young ones.
Public child-care is not good in Germany. I would not want to hand my child over to someone, who is very poorly paid, not well educated and has to take care of too many children for too many hours.
If I love my child, I want to spend time with it. If I love my work, I want to spend time with it. If I love two things (or beings) with the same intensity, I have a problem. That is not surprising.
Mrs Bennhold is a little bit behind time with her thinking. Her mind is traditionally shaped (I wonder what age she is). She still thinks that women are responsible for the children. Why that? Because the child grows in their womb? Since the fall of maternalism we know: Men have also something to do with the birth of a child. They have a certain
responsibility for children. So they should also spend time with children, love and educate them.
If women and men are considered to be equal, the question amongst parents should be: Who cares about the child and who cares about the money? Or: How is it possible to share, so that everyone is as happy as possible?
I heard that some cohabitant women in Germany, who have a well paid job, still consider their income as a kind of ‚pocket money‘ and not as the base of the family income. Most of female university graduates (this is a study in Germany which is not quoted by Mrs Bennhold) cannot imagine that their masculin partner is less graduated, less successful in his job, with lower income … than they themselves. Germans still mix up masculin sexual attractivity with power and money in the business environment.
So all they can do is: Find a partner who works a lot and to work a lot themselves. If they are happy this way, that is wonderful. No need for them to have children. They can even have sex without producing a child.
How is life for a child who doesn’t see it’s parents, because they love to work more than than to see their child?
I don’t see a problem with the fact that the birth rate of people with German passports goes down. Hitler is dead and his program to breed ‚true arians‘ as well. Shall the world be populated by those who love their kids, take care, and spend time with them.
Don’t take me wrong: I don’t criticize Mrs Bennhold that she wants to see ‚a Tradion fall and Women Rise‘. It will be interesting to see what happens when ‚Women Rise‘. Germany has a female chancellor and this is certainly good for some people in the car industry.
An important issue, that I share, is: How to have children in Germany and to be happy about it. I don’t see how the ‚Rise of Women‘ and Mrs Bennhold help me with that.

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